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PROBLEMS SHARED AND ADVICE GIVEN BY THE GODDESS OF FLITWICK
Attracted to Someone? Here’s How to Make the First Move
When we are attracted to someone, very often you don’t know if the feelings are reciprocated, or even in fact that the person may have noticed you. In these situations you must make the first move. In the game of love, there is no such thing as spontaneous fate or luck; you have to make your own fate or luck. If you want someone you must try your best to get him or her. This is how to do it.
At a party, reception etc.
1. Be friendly and cordial. If you are feeling shy or nervous, think of the object of you desire as just another person. Approach them first, introduce yourself, and ask open questions that need an answer other than “yes” or “No”. Ask questions you know the answer to if nessercary. If you are in a roomful of strangers and nervous, your object is probably nervous too, so attempt to put them at their ease. Offer to fetch them a cup of coffee, glass of wine etc.
If at the end of the function you have not had the opportunity to get to know them better, approach your object to say goodbye and give them your card with your name, telephone number and email address printed on it. Then wait and see if they respond in the next few days. If they give you their card, send a short email saying how you enjoyed meeting them at the function and would if they would like to meet up for a drink or chat to get in touch with you again.
If it’s someone you already know, sort of.
Go to places you know they will be. (It’s not stalking, it’s being positive.) Start off by saying, “Hello” then “Hello, how are you?” then “Hello, how are you, how’s your mum, dog. Goldfish” etc. Look on your object as someone you are getting to know as a friend, not a prospective lover; this will put you at your ease until you can eventually give them your card and take things further.
Try not to be frightened to give someone your card. If you feel shy, just hand it to them without an explanation, or put it next to them.
NEVER FEAR REJECTION. IF YOU ARE REJECTED REMEMBER THERE IS SOMEONE YOU ARE GOING TO MEET IN THE FUTURE WHO IS NOT GOING TO REJECT YOU
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